Book Blogs, Real Life, Guilt and Being Enough

One of things I’ve noticed lately is what comes with trying to balance blogging regularly and maintaining a social life. I am constantly wondering how others do it. I typically finish one book a week/every two weeks depending on how busy my weekends are. I am constantly seeing other bloggers being able to finish 1-3 books a week and also balance a family, job, etc. HOW DO YOU DO IT?

I got married in June and one of my goals has been to be more present with my husband. We both work full time jobs and he’s often picking work back up at night to get ahead for the next day. Perfect time for me to read, right? Sometimes I do take advantage of this, but it’s hard to make dinner, workout, eat and read all in one night. A typical night for me looks like:

5:30PM (ish): Arrive home. Feed dogs. Put things away.6:00PM: Start dinner. Sometimes eat by myself, or wait for husband

6:45-7ish: Do at home, 30 min workout

7:30ish: finish workout and clean up kitchen. Shower (because I’m sweaty)

8:30ish: finally settle in and pick up a book and or watch tv.

9:30pm: BED.

So as you can see, there isn’t a whole lot of time for me to spend a lot of time with my husband, or even to read. And not every night is like this. Sometimes there are errands to run. Sometimes there are appointments. In between these things I also try to find time to blog, although I’m getting better at doing that on the weekend and scheduling things out.

Guilt

I’m noticing that I am becoming more and more guilty if I don’t finish books fast enough. I’m feeling guilty that I’m not spending time with family and friends because I’m reading. Is this something anyone else feels?  I’ve been having such busy weekends that I’m not finding much time to read. It’s definitely a struggle and something I’m still trying to balance.

Often times I wonder if my blog will ever take off if I’m only posting a couple times a week. Or if my Twitter will ever get past 1,000 followers (a girl can dream, right?). These things give me anxiety because I feel that I’m not doing enough.

But on the other hand…. you are enough.

We are all only doing the best we can. I’ll never have a perfect week. It has taken me a long time to accept that, but sometimes life gets in the way. Sometimes (okay most of the time) paying extra money on bills is more important than buying a huge book haul. My TBR is just as good as the new releases on Barnes & Noble’s shelves. Libraries are free and essential, so why not spend more time there?

Being a book blogger isn’t always about spending hundreds of dollars on books or posting every day of the week. It’s about pursuing a hobby that you love and meeting people with the same interests as you, because sometimes you don’t have any bookish friends IRL.

Even when you feel no one is reading your posts, remember this is still a creative space for you. Take some time to live in the moment and in the book you’re reading. When I do this I feel like I’m back in my childhood room, reading without a care in the world.

Are you in a book niche that you feel like you’re the only one in the world posting about? Who cares! The right people will find you. I completely stand by that statement. Do. What. You. Love.

I may only have 100 followers on Twitter, but does it really matter? Sometimes more isn’t always better. I may only have 93 followers on here, but I’m enjoying the interaction with fellow readers immensely. It’s like my own little corner of the world.

I may not have all the time in the world to read, but that just means I cherish it when I do. Husband is out golfing? YAY! Four hours of uninterrupted reading. The laundry and dishes can wait, cause I’ve got reading to do.

I hope this inspires you to keep going. Let me know you how balance your life and book blog!

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  1. This is an excellent post and I think it covers loads of the issues book bloggers/ bookstagrammers face. Personally I decided in August I was going to read the BIG books on my tbr. I find that I often gravitate towards smaller reads because I can finish them faster and then have more content on the blog/IG. But then that means all my massive classics get neglected. But then I thought isn’t reading what we are all on here for anyway? So I know that in August my IG account is going to look a little sparse but I’m trying to change my attitude towards reading. I may only manage to read 3 books in August but it doesn’t matter!

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    1. Good for you for reading what you want in August! I agree, I tend to gravitate towards the shorter reads but my last two reads were Throne of Glass and they are pretty hefty 😬. My classics are getting neglected as well which makes me sad, so I’m going to try to get to those as well and refuse to feel guilty 🤷🏻‍♀️. We ARE all on here to read and talk books so read what you want! 🤗

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  2. This post is so relatable! I get home by 5:30 as well and am asleep by 10 so there’s really not much time to do… anything. Often I’m only able to read for 15 minutes before falling asleep and more often than that I don’t read! I certainly feel guilty and also a bit jealous when I see others who are reading a book per week whereas I take two weeks or longer. But sometimes we just have to accept it for what it is!

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  3. Perfect post! So relatable.
    I feel like we should all let go of that pressure we sometimes have and remember qhy we started blogging in the first place, remember that we do it because we love it and feel passionate about books.
    And I totally agree with you when it comes to tbr and libraries. We don’t have to spend fortune on books, reading and reviewing backlists can also be satisfying.
    I know I always look forward to read someone’s reviews for backlisted titles.

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